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I was with my partner for just over a year, and I really did love her, infact a few weeks ago I decided to invite her to my family’s party and basically introduced her to everyone which was basically the beginning of the end of our relationship, that day was a busy day for me and my cousin that I hadn’t seen in a while was trying to tell me something but didn’t have the time to listen, but anyway after the whole introduction and party I finally talked to my cousin and he told me he had history with my partner, I thought it was a joke at first until he showed me disturbing pictures of them both, tbh I actually saw a future with her, she says it’s all in the past and how he doesn’t mean nothing to her anymore and we should work it out, I know that she means it but it was my cousin I really don’t know what to do, it’s hard for me to ignore the fact she slept with my cousin and yeah it was before we met but I don’t know if we can work it out without looking at her and thinking of what her and my cousin did, but the feelings I have for her are still strong what advice can you give me
12. June 2015
Eh why would your cousin feel the need to show you disturbing photos? Anyway, the decision is completely yours, some people can move past these things others can’t. If this is something worth holding on to, don’t let something that happened in the past screw up with the person you were ready to show off and introduce to your family.
Do you answer all questions because I sent a question on the 10th and it didn’t get an answer 🙁
12. June 2015
Nope. I can’t answer all questions especially if they’re an essay/question that has been asked in my book & on here several times.
My girlfriend has this odour coming from her vagina every time we have sex, I’ve told her about it and she said its because she used to wash her vagina to much a few months have passed by and she still has this odour. How do I go about tackling this?
11. June 2015
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Hi Oloni, I slept with my best friends boyfriend. Technically. Years, and I means yeeaaars, before they started going out, I met this guy and we had a quick fling. We didn’t speak after that. Between then and now, I’ve met my best friend and had completely forgotten about this guy. Last week she showed me the picture of the boy she’s been seeing and IT’S HIM! I don’t know what to do, do I tell her or just put it in the past? I feel like it will hurt her if I tell her (she really likes him) but I also feel like it happened before I even knew her and so maybe she doesn’t need to know? Help.
11. June 2015
Tell her, these scenarios happen more often than you think. It’s not like you saw into the future and had a premonition that she’d be dating him one day.
Hiya. I never thought I’d be in a position where I have to ask a stranger for advice. But you seem qualified to help out. The problem is is that I am with a girl that I’ve been with for 1 year. We are very happy. No serious issues and we recently admitted that we love eachother. The major problem is my ex. She doesn’t interfere or anything but when I was with her she unfortunately miscarried quite late on in the pregnancy (we were going to keep it). So when it was the anniversary of the day she miscarried she contacted me saying she’d like to go and visit grave. Just me and her. Now I have been with my current girlfriend to the grave but I do understand where my ex is coming from. I am not in love with her any more but me and her did share in something quite special and traumatic at the same time. And for that I will always have some time for her. My gf is adamant this is inappropriate and I should not be with her alone whilst we are both vulnerable. She is the only person who should share in these moments with me apparently. What do I do because I cannot just disregard someone who had to bare the trauma of loosing OUR child but I do kind of see where my gf is coming from. PLEASE help!
11. June 2015
I can understand why your ex has reached out to you, when a couple decides to have a baby the biggest fear is loosing your child. This was something hurtful that you both went through and the truth is, I think this is still very hard for her. She needs someone to talk to about it and probably feels that the only person is you. But when you’ve moved forward in life ( with your new girlfriend) you really have to think about how this might make her feel. This is such a difficult position and I can tell you’re genuinely a nice person who cares about both people in different ways, but you’re in a new relationship now. Even though this is an incredibly sensitive subject you have to sit and TALK about this with your gf again and if you can’t come to an agreement.
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