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Hi Oloni. How do I tell my friend she needs to slow down without coming across as being annoying or rude? So, my friend beats several guys on numerous occasion, at first I didn’t really have an issue with it but now it’s getting too much. This year she’s had sex with about 10 different boys. I am really concerned for her. Even when she’s seeing someone she still beats about. Boys are beginning to notice this and I’m always defending her, telling them to mind their business and what not. I really want her to stop! I have tried everything, even introduced her to one of my mate but she just used him for sex. How do I speak to my friend without making her upset and losing our friendship because I really do love her. HELP PLEASE!!
13. June 2015
Honestly? Who she sleeps with and how she chooses to sleep with is none of your business love. If you feel like it’s causing a problem for you in terms of your reputation & friendship then it’s up to you to distance yourself or end it.
Hey Oloni Can you advise me on this. Few months b4 my birthday my girlfriend of 10months who I live with asked me what I wanted for my birthday and I jokingly said I didn’t mind a threesome. We both laughed at it and I honestly thought it ended there. She went behind my back and told my best friend(whom she always told me is cute) that I would love a threesome for my birthday and invited him to join!. They both planned it and on my birthday after we partied all night my best friend followed my girlfriend and I home. We started smoking and drinking again in the living room and before I knew my girlfriend was already giving me head in front of my friend. I wanted to stop her but It’s been a fantasy so I left her to continue. My friend joined later and we both banged my girlfriend in turns. After that day I felt so bad I couldn’t even look her in the face again . But I blame myself for putting the thought in her head. 2 months later, my girlfriend got upset that I haven’t touched her since my birthday (obliviously I’m not over the fact that my best friend fucked her). I tried to explain things to her but she didn’t care to listen.
13. June 2015
If it wasn’t what you wanted you really should have stopped it & asked your friend to leave. And why did your best frien not tell you that your girlfriend has planned a threesome? This is all sorts of messy. Have a conversation with her and see where communicating can get you both.
Hey Oloni, I’ve been sleeping with my best friends boyfriend and now I just found out I’m pregnant. I don’t believe in abortions so I plan on keeping the bay but my friends bf wants me to abort it and he has even threatened me. I really need your advice?
12. June 2015
Stay away from him. You both had consensual sex & the product was s baby. Was it planned? Nope ..but he’s the last person you need around you, however you do need to let your friend know and prepare for that outrage. If it gets worst with the guy inform the police.
Hi Oloni. As a person I’m sooo independent and love my time alone, I love to be with people and I’m very sociable but I can still be really independent too. When I get into relationships or start to like someone however I can be soooo clingy & I just hate giving space, when bae takes long to reply and distance. How should I try to not be so clingy in relationships please?
12. June 2015
Keep yourself busy.
Hey Oloni me and my partner have been together for 6 months but best friends for about two years. Things are going great and I’m happy. Recently I spoke to him about our future as friends we always spoke about how we would be married( we didn’t know we would be together at that point). I was shocked when he told me that he does not want kids. I have a child from a previous relationship and he has said he would like to be married in the next two years with me but no kids )obviously my child is apart of the package) I love him and I want to marry him but I want kids we’ve spoken and he’s serious he even plans to get the chop later this year. I don’t know what to do.
12. June 2015
I hope you mean snip as chop sounds frightening. If you both want something different within your marriage, such as kids it’s great that you’re talking about it now rather than when you’ve both jumped the broom. It’s up to you now to decide whether or not you can carry on to commit to this relationship knowing what you do.
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