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Dear Oloni, I feel like I’m going out of my mind. Last month I broke up with the guy I was seeing for a year because he was not serious enough about me. We haven’t spoken since but everyday I can’t help check his twitter a few times a day, I even stalk his whatsapp and check if he’s online. I find myself using Twitter snapchat and instagram everyday in hopes that he’ll see (I rarely use them normally). I think about him all the time I re read our conversations everyday. I know I have feelings for him still maybe even love, but is this normal? Our relationship was very stressful and it depressed me, since breaking things off I’ve been a lot happier. But at the same time I’m miserable without him. How do I get over someone I thought I would be spending the rest of my life with? How do I come to terms with the fact that he lied and lead me into believe this was going somewhere for a whole year?
18. June 2015
You have to keep yourself busy and discipline yourself not to do these things. It’s nornal to want check an ex’s social media feed, but when you do it obsessively it becomes worrying. What do you enjoy doing? Who do you enjoy doing it with? There was life before this dude & there is life after.
Hey do you think a trip to the arcade is a great first date? I’m not too sure now since I’ll show my competitive side to this girl I like, which might put her off me
18. June 2015
Go to the arcade & relax. You’re not winning anything but some tickets.
Hi Oloni, i have been in my relationship now for 7 years. We’ve grown up together from high school and i love him very much. Although in the past he has cheated, and it’s causing serious problems as i do not trust him. Apart from when we are at work, we’re together all the time, but he is always on his phone and then shouts at me when i ask who he’s speaking to. At this stage i feel like giving up and walking away from the relationship, but i’ve put in 7 years and love him dearly. I’m so confused and don’t know what i want/need to do.
18. June 2015
You’re still finding it hard to trust him due to the cheating from the past. Seven years is a very long time, but can you commit to another 7 of uncertainty? That’s even longer. It’s either you talk about how it’s affecting you, or you walk away.
Hey, Oloni. I have found out my dad is cheating on my mum. How should I approach the situation? Tell my mum, tell my mum and dad together etc?
18. June 2015
I’m so sorry to hear this. You have to make sure you’re 100% positive he’s involved in infidelity. Sit your mother down and just tell her what you know, you’re her daughter/son and the last person who would want to deliver such news. Remember to be very supportive also as this something nobody would want to hear. It’s also best you tell her on her own.
Hello Oloni, you recently gave my friend great advice and I’m here now seeking some of your wisdom.
18. June 2015
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