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Hey Oloni. Earlier this year I was raped by my best friends father and I never made a report because I didn’t want to put my best friend through that as she doesn’t know what her dad did to me up till now but she knows something is up with me as I’ve been keeping a distance from her and her house when I’m normally there almost everyday. I know telling her would break her heart and would cause conflict in the family as her dad is still with her mum. To make matters worse I have now found out that I am pregnant with his child and I don’t know what to do, no one including my parents know anything. I know it’s not the baby’s fault but I don’t know if I can have this child knowing that they was conceived from such a disgusting act but I don’t know if I can go through with an abortion. If I keep this child I would have to tell my friend who the father is and relive what happened to me and even if I do say the father is someone else her father will found out somehow and I’m so afraid of what he may do and if the child looks like him I’ll have some further explaining to do. Please help, I don’t have much time until I no longer have a choice but to keep the baby (I’m 19 btw)
25. June 2015
I always ask people to remain anonymous, but I would really prefer if you could e-mail me so we could speak properly. You’re suffering in silence out of fear, when this isn’t your fault. You have done nothing wrong. I understand why you don’t want to tell your friend but she doesn’t come before you, her family does not come before you. This needs to be reported and he should not be able to get away with what he did. As for being pregnant, the decision is yours. Many victims of rape have dealt with this in their own way. However I’d seriously advice you see a councillor who can give you professional attention. I’m so sorry to hear what you’ve went through.
Hi oloni. I’ve been with my boyfriend for 5 years and not once has he given me an orgasm. I’ve had to fake it every single time. But im sick of it now and i feel that i’ve lied to him for too long! He’s very confident that he can satisfy so i dont want to hurt him and he also doesn’t take criticism very well… How do I tell him straight up?
25. June 2015
Eh you can’t keep lying just because he’s unable to take criticism. He’s not having sex with himself, your body matters too, so if there are things you’d prefer then tell him. What does your body enjoy the most? Longer foreplay? oral sex? Let him know. His pride does not come first or even second here. Do understand this however, orgasms do not ALWAYS happen for women whilst having sex.
hi oloni, me and my bf had an argument like a week and half ago but I thought we sorted things out.The next day before he dropped me to train station(2hr long distance relationship)he wasn’t really talkative I asked what was up he said he just didn’t feel like talking so I didn’t push it.So I call him the next morning we talk everything seems ok. But now he’s stopped answering my calls and texts without any reason? I have no idea what’s going on its been nearly 2 weeks. Help?
25. June 2015
If he’s not answering your calls after two weeks he’s clocked out of the relationship without being vocal about it. If you know anyone close to him friend or relative, contact them, just to make sure he’s okay and that nothing crazy has happened.
Whilst having sex I got ridiculously wet like puddle wet so wet I wasn’t tight anymore he was literally swimming,this was the first time this has happened to me how do I stop myself from gettin so wet ?the sex is too good but I don’t want to always be squirting lol it’s embarrassing.
24. June 2015
This is very natural and common, be glad. It makes the sex better, so do not feel embarrassed. However, if you REALLY want to be less wet, try reducing the foreplay just before sex.
Hi Oloni, despite what our generation say about “girls cooking for you man/babes” is it actually a negative thing for a female friend/another woman to cook for your man?
23. June 2015
Depending on the nature of the friendship, it’s not really a big deal.
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