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Hey Oloni was chatting to this guy that i met from Pof everything was going great we have a lot in common we were planning out date and during a casual convo and had an outburst his sexual desire i then spoke to him about why he think this is remotely acceptable. He then tried to explain and when i shut his reasons down he then apologized expained hes not after sex and if he was he would go elsrwhere or be blunt and tell me rather than getting to know me and planning dates with me next day messaged me normally but i was still mortified with what had happened the night before and i told him i now feel as if he has an agenda he then said it was a one of outburst and he is sorry and i shouldn’t be so quick to dismiss him he’s not after sex but at that moment in time he felt he wanted to let me know a little more about him as a person and he knows it was inappropriate i didn’t know what to say i just replied right ok. What should i do ? I’ve grown to like his personality before this incident and I’m used to chatting to him from morning to evening should i give him the second chance but obviously be weary or just completey let go
30. June 2015
It’s entirely up to you. He’s apologised for his error.. if you can forgive him, then give the guy a chance. If it’s completely put you off him, then don’t bother. Men can be inappropriate at times, you did the right thing by shutting it down.
So i have been with my boyfriend for almost two years he is a white American and i am black. He has always loved black girls all his ex girlfriends have been black. He even studied African American history whilst he was at college. Well recently he wanted to do some role play and he suggested i play his slave and properly dress up as a slave and everything even call him master. I dont think im too comfortable with the idea it seems he fetishizes me. What do i do?
30. June 2015
Everyone has their limits when it comes to fantasies and clearly this is yours. You have to speak to him and let him know this makes you uncomfortable ask to do something else, where both of you can be happy.
Hey Oloni. I met this guy some months ago who has a girlfriend (he’s never once lied about his situation) and although there was a mutual attraction between us we agreed to “just stay friends”. However over time we’ve become quite close and have had sex quite a couple times. It was never something I wanted to do, just for the fact that I’d hate for my man to be sleeping with someone else, plus no one wants to be the “homewrecker”, but I feel like I developed feelings for this guy and by some of the things he says I think he feels the same. I would never want to ruin anyones relationship so I don’t know whether I should stop talking to this guy altogether or act on my feelings towards him and get him to make a decision??
30. June 2015
Similar to a dilemma I just answered. If he can cheat on his current girlfriend that should be an automatic red flag. Move n and don’t look back before this situation becomes even messier.
Hi, I’m a Nigerian guy who is in a LT relationship with my Pakistani girlfriend, and recently I’ve been thinking to engage to her since we have grew so much. However I’m not sure how her or my family will take it since we are from different cultures
30. June 2015
Well have a conversation about her family with her.
A clingy ex got back in contact with me, I don’t want to talk to him as I feel he manipulated me and has many insecurities he needs to deal with. I am scared letting him back into my life will only lead to trouble but he swears it’s only good intentions of friendship he has. Any advice
30. June 2015
Block his number if you want nothing to do with him.
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