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My boyfriend and I have been together a few years now and I cannot stand his family!! He always wants me to be around them and I hate being fake. They’re usually pretty nice to me but they are so rude and nasty towards him, especially his mom and grandmother and it really rubs me the wrong way because he is my man. The fact that he’s always kissing their behinds makes me even more mad! When I told him I don’t like the way they talk to and about him he got really defensive and said if I don’t have anything nice to say about them, not to say anything at all. A few days later, I went to his grandma’s house and her and his aunt was saying lot of nasty and negative things about him but I kept my mouth shut because I knew that I’d snap if I said anything. I let him know what they were saying about him and he says “Well why didn’t you defend me?” I was so confused because he got so defensive when I spoke about them before.. If this happens again what should I do? Should I defend my man or should I just mind my business and not cause confrontation??
4. July 2015
Say nothing it’s not your place. When you told him how you felt uncomfortable with what they were saying, he shot you down. Now he wants you to defend him? So you can get cussed out too? No. You have another conversation with him and let him know you find it quite awkward that they can be so disrespectful about him in your presence. Also reduce how often you go till things change, and he stands up for himself. You shouldn’t have to be forced to sit in an uncomfortable environment.
Hi Oloni, I’ve was seeing this guy for a while, we had sex and he suddenly stopped communicating (I know this tends to be the thing some guys after having sex, well a week later I sent him a sex explaining how I felt. A week later he messages means tells me he’s in another country and be back for a while. In my true style I called the number and it wrong as though he wasin another country. However the following two days I called and it rang with a UK dialling tone; I also found out that company he works for doesn’t even have a branch in the country he mentioned. Do you think this was just a stupid move to stop talking to me? Thanks in advance 🙂
4. July 2015
Don’t waste your breath. This guy isn’t serious about you at all.
Me from QOOTD about my friend from secondary school, the medication is definitely for HIV. She takes more than one tablet and it’s combination therapy. I did find out that she does have it and we spoke about it. She explained that it was not that she wasn’t going to actually have unprotected sex, she wanted to stop her periods which is quite a relief. I might seem nosey but I was concerned about my friend
3. July 2015
I’m happy you spoke to her about it. Communication is always key.
Basically I have this one friend that I’ve known for some years since secondary school. I remember going to her house and she would always have to take medication. I didn’t know what it was for because I didn’t know much about medication. One day she left it out and I saw the label, it was for HIV. I knew this because we learned about it in school and the treatments and stuff. So yeah that’s the backstory. Recently she has started to have sex. She has just turned 18 now. I am sexually active too and let her know I was on the pill and I was on the implant later. She asked me where I go because she hates using condoms. I thought this was really strange because of her status which then led me to think that her parents may not have really told her about her status because I think she was born with it since she has taken these meds for as long as I can remember. I didn’t tell her where I go because she might go and then stop using condoms. I don’t think the guy she is sleeping with knows about her status and she doesn’t know I know either. Should I tell her that I know so that I can advise her to keep practising safe sex? I find it hard to tell her now without sounding like a hypocrite because I don’t use a condom with my boyfriend. I want to let her know that I know and she shouldn’t be sleeping with guys without condoms given her status because she will put them at risk. Help! I don’t want to be mean to her
2. July 2015
I apologise for seeing this really late. Because of what you saw I think it’s better you have a conversation with her about it. You can do so in a friendly way, during a conversation. Besides if she doesn’t go to your clinic it’s very easy to google a local one. You’re human so it’s natural for us to be hyporcrtical however you’re also educating her in case she puts someone elses life at risk.
Please make this QOTD as I really need proper Insight into this topic. I am a girl and I love smoking weed. I don’t drink or do other drugs but weed is my thing. I’m starting to feel as though my habit and recreational preference is affecting the kind of guys that’s come my way. Mainly guys who ate happy for me to come round theirs and have a smoke. This is fine at first until I realise we are in a habit of “chilling Indoors smoking”. Do guys find weed smoking girls easy targets for sex and chilling? Are there other girls who have this problem?
1. July 2015
What you do in the privacy of your own space is down to you. However, regardless of what you’re doing, constantly going round a guys house to ‘chill’ ‘smoke’ ‘netflix’ always gives them an excuse to try it. If you’d prefer it not to lead to anything else, offer another form of activity to participate in.. Such as going out! You’re more than likely going to attract someone who has the same interests as you. So if you enjoy smoking cannabis, you’ll attract men who don’t mind it & will participate or enjoy it with you.
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