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Hey Oloni! Ive spoken to many guys however none of them seem to take me seriously? Im not sure why? Is it because of the type I tend to go for? I dont know but I want to meet someone kind and I have no clue where to start
13. July 2015
It’s either how you carry yourself that may be attracting the wrong guys, or you giving the wrong ones your attention.
Hey oloni! So I’ve been speaking to this guy for the last few months and we got to know each other pretty well. I started to fall for him which is rare for me and I asked him “what are we?” And he was like “I don’t know.. But I wouldn’t mind if you hooked up with other people” so that completely threw me off. I asked a few of my male friends and they said that if he doesn’t mind me hooking up with others then he probably is hooking up with other girls. Even after hearing from my friends I still find it hard not to talk to him :/. I also think he had/has a thing with one of his uni roommates because whenever he is there he doesn’t text me and tbh I feel like he is making me look so dumb 🙁
13. July 2015
He is seeing other people. If you feel like he’s making you look dumb, then leave.
Hey Oloni, well done on the success of your blog. My dilemma sounds twisted, but love can make you follow through with some things. I’m getting married next fall and I know my husband to be wants kids. Three actually, we dated for 3 years but I’ve been keeping the secret of be able to bear children. I found out when I was 23 after an illness. I have no idea what I should do. The truth will make him leave
10. July 2015
You can’t marry him knowing this. At least give him the chance to fairly say the words I do. Women all over the world are in happy marriages, who have adopted or fostered a child.
Hey Oloni my ex and I are co-parenting our 8 year old. He’s a great dad but every time our girl stays with her granmama (his mom of course) she always tells me how she got smacked. I don’t like or agree with it. I’ve told him and even though our little girl can be troublesome I’m totally against his ma putting her hand on our kid. He doesn’t see an issue and said she will be returning. I don’t want her spending weekends or holidays there, but now he’s asking me to tell to his mom. I don’t think it’s fair. What should I do?
7. July 2015
If you don’t want your child going there, you’re perfectly within your right to do so. The problem is some elder people still think it’s acceptable to discipline a child how they see fit.. Especially relatives. Have a conversation and let him know you’re against her method of trying to correct your kid. It’s his mum, so he should be having a word with her, he should be explaining how you do not wish to have others put their hands on your child.
***** My nan was trying to hook me up with a much older guy from my country who also lives here in London. I’ve told my mum this is wrong and she completely understands. I told her I will never marry a boy from my own country. She told me that’s okay but she wouldn’t accept a black boy as she thinks they’re only loyal to black girls.. (Which is very pathetic to say) I want to marry a black boy obviously. I recently got into a relationship with a black boy..what do I do? Do I keep it a secret or what? And now my mums noticed that I like this boy, she knows he’s black but she doesn’t want to accept it. But it doesn’t bother me what my parents think as long as I like him. We’ve known each other for a while now and we will eventually move in together in a year or so, he plans on proposing in a few years but how do I tell my mum this? He wants to meet my mum, which id love to but he’s gonna wonder why he isn’t going to meet my mum… And she won’t allow me to bring guys over anyway because she believes in sex before marriage. I think that’s another reason why she doesn’t want me to have a boyfriend..but I’ve been having sex for nearly 3 years now. So I’m just stuck in this sticky situation. Thank you very much, hope to hear from you soon.
7. July 2015
It would have helped if i knew how old you were. Because I’m wondering if your mother is protective because your you may be below 21. Regardless, how she feels about black boys is totally false .. black, white, orange and purple men are loyal to who they LOVE. That is it. I think you need to have a word with your mum, and let her know. If you’re pref is black men, then that can’t change because she forbids it. Brining guys home she can forbid as it’s under her roof, but it’s better to let her know how you’ve been feeling and who you’re dating so it doesn’t become a surprise.
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