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Hi Oloni, me and this guy i was seeing ended things a few months ago as he said he wasnt ready to fully commit (and i was). I took it hard initially, but after months of emotional rollercoasters ive focussed more on myself and movin onto better things but every now and again i get the urge to reconnect with him and this feeling has been quite prominent recently. He does pop up occassionally which doesnt help, what advice would you give to keep me on track to finding someone new?
20. July 2015
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Hi oloni (could this be made private and not shared on various social mediums please) Recently I started talking to my friends ex who she dated 4years ago. As she was young, she informed me that they only kissed and didn’t get much further than that and they didn’t date for long as she dumped him for another guy. Anyway on my second introduction to my friends ex,(my friend and her ex are really good friends btw) we kissed and my friend caught us. She asked me about it and I awkwardly avoided the question because I was just too embarrassed, but she knew. A couple of days after my friends ex asked my friend for my number which I said it was cool for her to give him. I confirmed with her and she said it was ok that she no longer had feelings for the guy and she didn’t care what happened between us. So me and the guy have met up a couple of times and although at first he was sort of a rebound for me, I’m actually starting to like him. Now my friend has said that she doesn’t like the fact that we are seeing each other and cannot believe that two of her close friends could do this to her and that as her friend I never should have asked her if it was ok to see her ex in the first place. I understand I am sort of in the wrong for this because at the end of the day they’re each other’s ex’s but i feel like the statute of limitations has passed because they dated so long ago. Am I wrong for this? Thank you
20. July 2015
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You need to have another conversation with your friend, it sounds like she never thought things would move forward with you & her ex so the reality has just hit her. Now it’s down to you decide what’s more important, the guy or your friendship?
Hello Oloni, do you think it’s crazy for a 21year old to date a 35year old man?
20. July 2015
If you’re comfortable, date how you please, you’re an adult.
Hi Oloni, congrats on your recent success and wish you many more in the future. This is not much of a dilemma but I am 21 and I am tired of being single. I do get male attention and sometimes we start talking and nothing ever comes out of it or I lose interest and visa versa. It’s becoming tiresome and I feel ready for a serious relationship as I haven’t had one yet. And before you say I should come to your event ( can’t remember the name lol) I don’t live in London. 😂 I am starting to think maybe something wrong with me ?
19. July 2015
hi oloni I love your blog btw , my boyfriend recently found out he had an sti and he gave it to me and suddenly I accused of cheating which is the obvious reason since we were having unprotected sex for 8 months and when I got checked mid way through our relationship I was clean so.however he claims he did not cheat and probably got it before me as he was on and off with another girl and I was a virgin when I met him anyways.I don’t kno what to do now he did tell me that this would never happen again but should I leave him?
19. July 2015
He’s lying and refuses to take responsibility, STI’s don’t fall from the sky. Leave.
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