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Hey oloni. Okay my case is somehow. My ex and I broke up sometime ago and I still have deep feelings for him. Like I still love him. It’s almost two years now, and we broke up because of distance, but I still really love him. I haven’t even been able to move on to someone else cuz I still love him. I talk to him sometimes but it seems like he doesn’t care about me anymore. How do I get over him and move on?
24. July 2015
Stop all forms of contact. Talking to him is not helping you move on.
Hey oloni. I haven’t been with my boyfriend very long but we’ve been friends for the best part of 4 years so it feels like forever. Although we tell each other everything, I feel like sex is key in a relationship (my opinion) and I’m not as satisfied as I have been with previous partners. He hates the idea of going down which is what I’m used to and enjoy. I do love him and want to spend my years with him, however I do not know whether I can get over his rejection to perform certain things in the bedroom. Do I discuss this with him, or let my love for him over-ride my sexual needs? Please help oloni!
24. July 2015
Talk to him about it, and voice how you feel on the matter. Sex can be a deal breaker for some couples, but not all. There’s also ways around oral pleasure that can make it more comfortable to him if he’s open minded to it, such as using edible lube.
Thanks for posting my question. Let me be clear- he had the grades to persue medicine & that’s what his parents wanted him to do but he choose otherwise & I just backed him. I encouraged him to go into marketing. I was finding him work experience & all sorts and ge wouldn’t go to any of them, telling me it wasn’t necessary. I sent that question a while ago and A friend of a friend found me a firm to work at. I’m starting in August. When I posted about it on Facebook he sent me a long text about how I’m a bad girlfriend and, telling me I ruined his life. His parents also blame me. I’ve just been surrounded by my family & friends but it’s hard to stay positive.
24. July 2015
No problem at all. I always post different relationship dilemmas on social media to see different opinions so please remember that you don’t have to take their advice or mine. Right, so it seems like he’s honestly just turned into a selfish douche. He has treated the situation as if you met in between University and were f*ck buddies for a few months, not a girlfriend of 6 years. As I mentioned before, he has shown you his true colours and they are not pretty. It’s time to move on and carry on filling your space with positivity. You have done nothing wrong.
Hey oloni. Me & my boyfriend have been together since we were 15. (I’m 21 & he’s 23) When he was deciding what to do in uni, his parent wanted him to go into medicine but he constantly complained. He wanted to do something that take 8 years. He had the grades no doubt, but he just want Intrested in medicine. He found he was more interested in marketing & advertising. His parents said no, and he should go on with a degree with medicine. I encourage him to follow his heart and do marketing. He chose to do marketing. He graduated with a 2.2 last week. He blames me for him not going into medicine, his parents not turning up for his graduation, and for him basically failing university. I graduated on Friday surrounded by my friends & family and I achieved a 1st. Even though we live together, he was gone in the morning and didn’t even turn up to my graduation. When I returned home, all his stuff was gone and he had moved out. I called his number but i suspect he blocked my number, I’ve gotten every single person I know to call him but it goes straight to voice mail. How can he leave me? After 6 years, he was my everything. At this point I’ve just been crying. Please help oloni.
23. July 2015
First off congratulations on getting a 1st, you should be very proud of yourself. You are not to blame for a course he decided to pick. It seems like you encouraged him to do what his heart truly desired and now he can’t face the fact he didn’t do as well in comparison to you. How his family have treated him is also not your fault, but you need to give it some time as he clearly needs time to get his head together. What he must also realise is that a 2.2 is not the end of the world, what you NEED to learn from this is what his true colours are.
Hi Oloni, the guy I am seeing currently did something I found really rude and disrespectful towards me and towards our relationship. Although we are not official, I had a discussion with him and I let him know about how I felt about his actions and he still kept on asking me why I had a problem with it. my issue now is that, he is not trying to see or understand what he did was wrong. Do I stop seeing him cos I feel like he has no respect for my feelings or am I thinking way too deep?
23. July 2015
You have to be more specific, but if you’re not seeing eye to eye right now, you might as well call it a day
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