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Hey oloni I’ve been in a relationship with my boyfriend for 7 years now we have been together since year 11(secondary school times), recently he proposed to me and I said no because I don’t think we are financially stable. But the other day we had a massive argue meant about why I didn’t say no and he slapped me is this an alert that he might lay his hands on me in the future?
4. August 2015
It seems like you made the right decision. You should never place your hand on someone else, especially when you’re in a relationship. This is one hell of a red flag and even break up worthy.
me and my ex recently broke up and he suggested if i want we can continue having sex. I really don’t get that.
4. August 2015
He wants his cake. Don’t give it to him.
I’m 23 female and I’ve fallen for a 17 year old male. He turns 18 pretty soon . He is mature and you will never be able to tell he is young but I can’t help myself as I fell for him before knowing his age. What should I do I’m scared people will judge me
4. August 2015
Unknowingly falling for a minor can be scary. But now you know his real age, it’s your job and responsibility to make sure the relationship ends till he is of a legal age. You can discuss this with him and let him know, but make sure you cut it off before you end up doing something you later regret.
Hi Oloni, just wanted to ask if it’s ridiculous at 23 to give up on relationship prospects of you have no luck in that department? And when I say no luck, to be specific, having never been in a long term relationship. Thanks
4. August 2015
It’s very ridiculous. I don’t believe in ever giving up.
Hey Oloni , I’m 22 and just finished university. I recently started dating a girl and I do really like her. Bare in mind even though she is my first ever girlfriend I’ve always liked girls but I never really did anything about it so I still consider my self bisexual. She however is a fully fledged lesbian i.e a ‘stud’ . Everything has been going well and stuff but we started having problems bacuase she keeps on accusing me of using her as an experiment and just for ‘fun ‘ and doesn’t believe that my feelings are for real . My problem is I am African and so is she but the difference is that her mom and friends all know that she prefers the other sex . And for me it’s obviously not the same . She says she understands me not wanting to air our relationship out but then suddenly she will turn on me when things are going wel . Asking me if I see us together in the future having children and all that . But it’s only been 4 months and I honestly don’t know how to answer cause I feel pressured to feel some type of way and I just feel l need space to figure it out but I feel if I say that to her she is going to think I don’t have feelings for her . Please help :/
1. August 2015
It’s been four months. Talking about kids etc would scare anyone away. She’s insecure and clinging onto you with these questions to validate your feelings for her… To validate the relationship. Have a serious conversation with her. Sit down SPEAK. Communicate how you feel. ‘I like things between you & I but I feel ss though I’m being pressured….Can we take things slowly as …xyz’. Hopefully that helps.
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