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Hi oloni. My man is basically addicted to sex. He always wants to have sex.. Sometimes we spend weeks or months apart & it makes me wonder if he’s having sex with other girls. Should I be worried or get him to seek help? If I tell him how I feel he may be offended.. 21. August 2015

You mean he has a high sex drive? Having a high sex drive doesn’t mean he’s cheating on you. Unless you’ve got a reason to out him on it, don’t ruin things.


Hey, I met this guy on Tinder (i know lol) and it feels like we really connected like we texted day and night for weeks and slept together twice over the course of a month (again, i know lol) anyway towards the end i noticed he wasn’t as “present” and he was pulling away, like we’d only talk when i messaged first and even then he’d seem back to his normal self (slightly eager) and then just randomly stop. I gave him his space and left the burden of contact with him but now it’s been two weeks and nothing. I’m pretty sure he’s ignoring me considering the fact we used to talk everyday but annoyingly I’m not exactly sure on whether to reach out or not. I think I might have given off the impression that I’m not really interested but at the same time I think I’ve done more things that give the impression I am. Anyway I’m starting to ramble, what do you think? Swallow my pride and casually hit him up with a “hey wanna hang out?” or continue suffering in silence? 21. August 2015

There’s nothing with using Tinder! I do however think he’s not serious about you or the progression of the relationship between the two of you. If you’ve initiated conversations and its been two weeks since he’s even said ‘Hey’ you need to let it go.


Dear Oloni, My boyfriend and I have known eachother for over almost 2 years and have been dating for a 5 months. It’s been going great between us until recently. Not too long ago, he confided in me about his desire to get closer to God. In doing so, he suggested that we become celibate. Now initially I went along with it because it made sense you know, I’m a christian too and I loved the fact that he was making such an effort to build up his relationship with God. The problem is that I just miss the sexual intimacy between us. I feel terribly guilty about this and can’t tell him this because i feel I’d be dragging him back into the lifestyle he’s trying to get out of. Spiritually, I just don’t feel we are at the same stage, but I love him with all of my heart. Do I go on celibate with him against my will, or confide in him? 21. August 2015

I think you should talk to him and let him know how you feel. You’re not dragging him back into any sort of lifestyle by expressing what has been on your mind. You also need to make a decision and ask yourself whether you’re willing to commit to being celibate with him.


Hi, I was seeing a guy and after a couple months felt it was the right time to approach him about developing the relationship as it was getting quite serious between us. So I discussed it with him and he said we couldn’t develop just yet because he didn’t think I was ready. It was a downward spiral from there. But the situation made me question myself, when I was so sure of what I wanted beforehand. Now I’m not sure whether I’m ready for a relationship or if he just wasn’t that into me. 21. August 2015

I wish you specified how long you were dating so I could evaluate your situation better. You should have asked him to explain what he meant when he made that statement as it seems like he was just trying to get out of the question you had posed.


Hello Oloni, so I’ve been sleeping with my university tutor for two years. I know it’s not the greatest way to find love, but he’s really supported me since I started. My dilemma is that he’s getting married to his fiance next year but I can tell it’s not what he wants. He’s told me if he had met me earlier hed have started a life with me after I graduated. Should I talk him out of it? 20. August 2015

No, you don’t talk him out of it. You need to find a new tutor as he’s taking advantage of his position. This guy is not serious about you and certainly not serious about his wife, but that has nothing to do with you. You’re doing the wrong thing by even suggesting you should talk him about of making a commitment to someone else. The only thing that should be your concern is how you’re going to end it before you fall in too deep and invest yourself in something emotionally.


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