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hi oloni, i havent beat for about 11 months. ive beat 1 guy before but im scared to raise my body count especially to someone im not in a loving comitted relationship to. (btw im 19) question is; should i beat this guy and make him a regular fb or wait ? xx 15. March 2018

Heya hun! Do what makes YOU comfortable. Don’t feel pressured by society by worrying about how many people you’ve slept with. Do what feels right but be safe about it.


Your blog has changed the way I view sex. Thank you!! 8. March 2018


Hi Oloni, I met this guy beginning of this year and we’ve been cinema and top golf and chilled at his.. we are so comfortable around each other and like each other. He’s cute and affectionate when we’re out together. I’ve asked him what his intentions are and he got mad and said just go with the flow and stop forcing things just off one question.. he thinks I want him to wife me already. Also, he hasn’t taken me out to an ACTUAL date. I always pay for myself and sometimes for him too.. he’s 24 and I’m 21. Am I wasting my time? I want a serious guy who loves me. I hate meeting new people so this will be the last:( 6. March 2018

All i read was that you’ve paid for him and it’s never been reciprocated. Please let him go.

Getting straight to the point, I used my ex’s grief as an excuse to see him and have sex with him and now I am feeling extremely guilty?? I’ve always been in love with my ex even though I’ve dated people from time to time. I heard through my sibling who is still in close contact with him and that he recently lost someone in his family. I contacted him as I was genuinely concerned for him and I wanted to see he was okay, he askes to meet up and I agree, we talk and one thing Lead to another. After this, I haven’t bothered to contact him or see if he’s okay, I just wanted to see him and fuck. Am I a bad person??? 6. March 2018

Hi Oloni, I’m so sick of being messed about by boys. They take me on a few dates, I haven’t slept with any of them that have, and then after a few dates they just loose interest. I don’t rely on a mans attention to give me confidence but it’s really getting me down. I keep over thinking everything, like I’ll never be as attractive as some of the girls out there and there’s nothing special about me at all. I just feel like I’m in rut in my life and I’m just not satisfied with anything. I’m at uni so I should be having the best time ever (I’m on 2nd year) I just need some girl advice on how to approach everything, whenever I speak to my friends about it they just brush me off 😖 xxx 6. March 2018

Hey hun, believe it not, but what you’re going through is incredibly common! The fact that you’re going out on dates means your making an effort to get to know new men. I think you should try and carry on doing whatever it is that you’re doing, but also make sure you’re working on yourself as a person, so when the right person comes along they have a great version of yourself.

Good luck


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