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Hi oloni, is it always wrong to ghost on someone? I was ordering food using my bf phone. I saw a text from his friend saying “come on don’t think like that, your girl is good to you” I got curious and opened the text. I know that it was wrong for me to do that but I wanted to know why they were talking about me. I saw that my boyfriend texted him about how I need to humble myself and that fact that he still loves me although I have a huge cut on my face. The cut is from an abusive relationship I was in. He texted this after we had an argument so I know he was mad but I’m angry. I can’t even stand to look at him. It took me a while to gain my confidence back after the cut and I don’t want to be with someone who thinks they’re doing me a favor. I haven’t texted him back or called him. I want to end things by just completely cutting him off. Is this wrong? 21. May 2018

Hey hun, I’m genuinely glad you came across that text, because it allowed you to know the type of person you’ve been with. What he said was dreadful and I think you should let him know what you read. I don’t blame you for wanting to leave after. His comment is very break up worthy and unforgivable at this point.


Hi Oloni, is it weird that I want to have sex with two bisexual men at the same time? The idea turns me on. 17. May 2018

No, it’s not weird at all!!


Been texting this guy for a few weeks and he still hasn’t asked me on a date yet, we talk about it but he’s never actually outright asked me. I do like him and would like to see him but I’m too scared to ask him to go out, what do I do??? 17. May 2018

Ask him out for drinks.


I gave my man an STI, he forgave me because we only got together recently and it’s been complicated. But I’m am now scared the sex life is ruined, we haven’t had sex ever since, how do I stop it from being awkward. 17. May 2018

As long as it’s safe to have sex again it shouldn’t awkward once you’ve had a conversation. Getting an STI in and out of relationships happens a lot, so talk about protection etc. It’s only awkward if you both make it that way.

Talk, strap up, enjoy and get tested frequently.


Hello! I’ve been talking to a guy seriously for over a month and last weekend we met and had sex. Two days later his attitude was changing 17. May 2018

Usually happens when guys get what they want. Don’t even feel a way. Annoyingly enough, it’s quite common.

The best thing you can do is move on.


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