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Hi Oloni, I just found out my boyfriend of 5years cheated on me two years ago. The most painful part was that it happened during the period i lost my mother. I’ve confronted him about it and he insists that it was just ‘talking’, no sex. I’ve decided to take sometime apart but i need some advise on how best to handle this. Really confused. 11. November 2017

I’m really sorry about your loss. It’s disgusting that someone who should be there for you is entertaining other women in your moment of need. You did the right thing by taking a break from this relationship. The problem now is, is he really telling the truth? Was is just “talking”. Cheaters are usually liars, so that’s up to you to believe and decide.

Surround yourself with friends and family, people who care about you.

He’s taken your love granted and right now, it’s best you have some alone time to decide whether you can forgive and forget, or break up with him.

Oloni

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Hi oloni so this is my dilemma. So I got married in June and I asked one My best friend of almost 15 years, we both attended secondary school and uni together. When I got engaged she didn’t seem so ecstatic, like you would expect your friend of that long to be, like helping you with your bridal shower following you to your bridal fitting at least a bit effort like my others friends did. But knowing her personality I didn’t take it to heart. Any way a couple of months before my wedding she said she wasn’t attending as she couldn’t afford it! Although she was traveling around the world and posting pictures of new bags but she couldn’t afford to be in the wedding. either way I offered to put up most of the expenses she said she still couldn’t attend weird right. She ended up not attending my wedding. She messaged me long apology her excuse was so lousy claiming she gained a bit of weight and she didn’t feel comfortable in the dress complete bs. Till this day I haven’t spoke to her she has tried countless of times even asking our friends to talk to me. Do you think I’m being petty and childish should I continue being her friend or am I right to cut her off 11. November 2017

There could be a number of reasons she was acting it up. I honestly think she was a jealous bitch that you should get rid of. Not attending your wedding AFTER you offered to help out is unforgivable. Who behaves like that? An enemy.

Putting on weight is not an excuse either, the day isn’t about her.. aint nobody looking at her.

In all seriousness, give your ex-friend a chance and speak to her. See what she has to say and make up your mind from there.

Oloni

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Hi oloni, This is a very weird dilemma but I don’t know what to do. I have a fraternal twin brother who I used to be really close with and we’d tell each other everything and we were like best friends. We start led college and we’re still cool but we didn’t talk as much. I wanted to go through a hoe phase. So during my hoe phase I went to another friends college and we went to a house party. I ended up having a train ran on me but little did I know my brother was at the same party. And whilst I was upstairs getting fucked he walked in whilst it was happening. I was mortified and we haven’t spoke since. What makes it worse is some of those guys are his new friends from college. I even saw one of the guys I slept with social media page and he’s making a lot of jokes about trains and hoes. He’s a total dick. What do you think I should do? It’s been 3 months since we’ve spoken. He doesn’t even come home whenever I do, he always says he’s busy in the family group chat then goes back next week. 11. November 2017

Heya hun! Sometimes we end up in mortifying situations in life, it happens. What you choose to do sexually shouldn’t have to be explained to anyone, especially when it’s consensual and makes you feel empowered.

Having any one related to you witness it can’t be easy either, especially a brother. What you need to do is call him and speak about it, as this is something that clearly bothered him. You shouldn’t have to apologise for your sexual activities, but you should try to clear the air. Being sexual shouldn’t drive him this far away from you, even if he felt embarrassed, you’re family.

I hope you really do work it out over time and please do visit a sexual health clinic.

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is it acceptable for a guy your in the talking stage with to be a bit sexual? like u haven’t gone on a date yet but hes already being a bit cheeky? 11. November 2017

Depends what type of cheeky.. but if you think he’s doing the most, he’s probably just signalling, that he’s only interested in sex.

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I’ve been with my bf for a couple of months now and I was just one day I randomly got on the topic of porn and it led to him saying he has a sex tape with his ex gf. Idk if it’s werid that I kinda want to watch it or if it’s even my place to tell him to deleted it since he hasn’t been with her for over 3 years and he’s now with me. 11. November 2017

Lol you want to watch it or you want him to delete it? Talk to him about it and express that’d you’d prefer if he got rid of any photos or videos with her including his sex tape. It’s okay if you feel uncomfortable by it, but don’t ask to watch it, if it’s clearly going to make you annoyed.

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