Ask Oloni: “My Boyfriend Has Herpes, But I’ve Chosen To Stay”
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All dilemmas have been sent from real people and taken from www.simplyoloni.com/ask but answered in this feature
Heya, I think it’d be a great idea if you both made a visit to a sexual health clinic for more professional advice. However, I would say it’d be wise to ALWAYS use protection during any sort of intimacy, so this goes for sex that involves vaginal peneteration/anal sex as well as, oral sex. You’re also NEVER to have sex during his break out (even with a condom), so it’s important he informs you about this. You can read more about herpes here: http://simplyoloni.com/usher-herpes-and-everything-you-should-know-about-the-virus/
Hey hun! Thanks for writing in, from what you’ve shared, it seems as though, you’re insecure, and it’s completely normal for you to feel the way you do. However, I’m sure there’s more to you than your physical appearances. There’s a reason he’s been with you for two years and there’s a reason he’s STILL with you today. That’s something you need to realise. Why not ask him for help and use his success as motivation? Tell him how you’ve also been feeling, I’m sure he’d appreciate it.
And please also work on your confidence before anything else.
This isn’t a reason for you to break up, he also just doesn’t have £90 to cough up. It’s irritating that you warned him and he never listened, so instead make that the topic and express how you felt when he ignored your request. That is the issue.