Ask Oloni – I’m Pregnant And Afraid To Let Him Know He’ll Be A Father Again
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Hey hun, I hope you’re staying strong throughout this period. I know all of this is going to come as a surprise especially since you haven’t spoken or met up since. However, you’re going to have to tell him out of respect, you don’t need to be in a relationship or talk often before you tell someone you’re carrying their child unless it can harm your health in my opinion. As for backlash you weren’t really specific as to what you mean, but the only thing I can take from this is that it’ll get around and people may think you’re fibbing. If that is the case, then it should be the least of your worries, the only thing you need to focus on is how you plan to move forward with your pregnancy and communicating with the father about your current position.
Trust or not, please do not sleep with his ass again till he gets tested. If there wasn’t an issue he’d do it without a debate. Make sure YOU also get a sexual health test and provide him with the results. He should be glad he’s with someone who cares about their sexual wellness and it isn’t coming across that way.
Hey hun, If he’s been in a relationship since 2012 and broken up with his girl.. even though there is a baby on the way, I don’t think it’s wise you get involved with him, especially if it’s not going to be casual sex or just a fling. He has a family on the way.. and yeah he’s not with her now, but what about after the baby is born? I think you should let him focus on his family instead of creating an emotional attachment otherwise known as a relationship. You’ll lose out in the end.